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they say there are seven stages to a break up.
step one; shock
this is the stage where you are figuring out what happened, normally takes place right after the break up. it's the stage when the wrecking ball have it's first contact with the wall. the wall is you, you can do completely nothing to stop it- you can't fight it back, you can't stop it from happening and worse of all you can't stop the impact that's gonna happen to you. the impact of a break up will leave your heart shattered to pieces and scars will remain. no matter how much love, time and effort you put in to mend your heart, the scar can never be healed.
stage two; denial
this is the stage when you keep telling yourself this isn't happening. it's the stage most people find hard to overcome. delay is the deadliest form of denial, the longer you take to let go, the more torturous it is. what's the point of holding on and caring for him/her when he/she don't even even a damn for you? it's not worth it. you will just suffer more looking at past memories, photos captured together, places you all have been together and things you all have done together.
stage three; isolation
this is the stage when you finally recognize what's going on and just wanna have some alone time. it's like waking up from a dream and getting hit in the face by reality for the first time. you got to take some time alone to get use to the new surroundings especially now that you don't have a partner. but to start getting use to the surroundings, you gotta start walking first. the first step is always the hardest, only the strong ones will be able to start their engine and move on.
this is the time where you take some time off from your heavy workload and screwed up life, and just walk around and think differently. some people spend loads and buckets of money on food and clothes to pamper and makeover themselves. while some just take a journey down beautiful sceneries to relax themselves. and the rest hang out with friends to distract themselves.
stage four; anger
this is the stage when your heart shifts from sad to mad. all the tears that rolled down those cheeks of yours in the shower will dry up and you will feel angriness running down your veins. you will throw away all the tissues you used to wipe your tears and end up throwing darts at his/her picture.
stage five; bargaining
they say you can't stay mad at someone you love for long. this is true as this is the stage where you think you're finally over the break up, but you suddenly think of him and miss him. your brain keeps getting into conflict with your heart. your brain being smart, tells you it's over and there's no use crying over spilt milk. while your heart being foolish enough to fall in love with a jerk, tells you that there's still hope somewhere and that things will change. you find yourself being confused and constantly struggling to move on.
stage six; depression
this is the stage where you'll have a condition of general emotional dejection and withdrawal; sadness greater and more prolonged than that warranted by any objective reason. you'll get sad and you don't know the reason why.
stage seven; acceptance
this is the stage where you look back and know what your past meant what your future hold. you start to finally accept the fact that it's over for real and find the real you lost in darkness.
accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. you can't stop the waves but you can learn how to surf.
'Don't waste your time looking back at what you've lost. Move on, life is not meant to be travelled backwards.'
here's to the future cause i'm done with the past x
